Who Am I?

You’re at a party and are introduced to someone you find extremely attractive who asks about you. What do you say? A senior executive is interviewing you for what you’re sure is your dream job and asks you to talk about yourself. What do you say? You’re ready to buy a co-op in Manhattan and…

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Let It Go — Babies Do!

We drove upstate from Manhattan for a while, parked, and headed out into the forest. The first two hours were just fine. We had an enjoyable late lunch. I didn’t want to litter, so I put the empty root beer bottles back in my pack, and we set out again. It was not so fine…

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Why Positive Thinking Is Bad for You

The “power of positive thinking” is so firmly enshrined in our culture that knocking it is a little like attacking motherhood or apple pie. Many people swear by positive thinking, and quite a few have been helped by it. Nevertheless, it is not a very effective success tool — and it can be downright deleterious.…

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The Truth About Happiness

We seek it here, we seek it there. We seek happiness everywhere. Yet it eludes us. All of our activities — our pursuit of fame and fortune, our quest for meaningful relationships, our drive to build or change things — are directed searches for this ephemeral state. We get there, but we can never heave a…

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